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In current times, more and more people are pooling their resources together and living with extended family members.  Some of the reasons include financial assistance, childcare, and providing care for elderly or sickly family members.  Whatever the reason, living with one’s family can be a… (more)

Have you ever had a big argument over a small matter? An explosion over a late dinner or another empty toilet-paper roll? We argue about trivial things because they represent bigger, more emotional issues. Too often we argue about the details and never quite get… (more)

Intimacy has several facets, or doors. In every relationship, we open those doors a certain amount as we build trust with one another. We might think of four doors of intimacy, physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual, that are all connected. We continually open each one… (more)

There are lots of ideas about what forgiveness is and isn’t. This is what forgiveness is not. Forgiveness is not pretending that it never happened. Forgiveness does not mean ignoring the offense, and pain, and damage involved. That is denial, not forgiveness. Forgive and forget… (more)

Intimacy is not the same as sex.  We often use intimacy as a sexual euphamism, but it is much richer. Intimacy is indeed about the closeness and vulnerablility we offer one another, a kind of nakedness so to speak, but also includes spiritual, intellectual, and… (more)

Taking corners at 27mph can be an exhilarating and frightening proposition. My husband has topped out our tandem speed at 55 mph. That is a scary speed on the back of the bike when you cannot see what lies ahead. Our tandem does not normally… (more)

In marriage, as we grow closer together as we grow closer to God. Many couples are uncomfortable with praying together because prayer creates an emotional nakedness. But this spiritual vulnerability is a powerful tool for building intimacy in marriage. Prayer connects us intimately before God.  As we… (more)

1. No Winning: We seek not to win victory over our spouse, but to build the relationship. Placing blame and being right might make you feel better, but it doesn’t build anything between you. -Eph 5.28 Husbands ought to love their wives as their own… (more)

Can you freely offer apologies, or will you apologize only if you were proven completely, utterly wrong? Rule #8 Say I’m Sorry It can be very difficult to admit our contribution to a conflict. If we are honest, we will admit that we too have… (more)